About

In 2013, I found myself frustrated, mentally exhausted and stressed, navigating each day without a clear sense of purpose, enjoyment or satisfaction. A sentiment that I believe many of us have experienced at some point in our lives, often without recognizing the profound impact it has on us, our business and our families. I was entrenched in this mindset after enduring a toxic business relationship for 15 years, in a business I co-founded and ran, that left me feeling utterly depleted. It was a situation I hadn't anticipated nor planned for, and it had me reeling. The continuous loop of frustration, stress, and inexplicable fear had become my norm. In fact, I was so consumed by these emotions that I couldn't even pinpoint the root of my stress or anger. This internal tumult, which I hadn't fully comprehended, reached an unexpected clarity through a simple question from my daughter one morning: "Daddy, are you ever going to be happy again?" A question so innocent yet profound, it struck a chord deep within me.

My daughter's inquiry served as a catalyst for self-reflection. It was in that moment that I recognized how far I had drifted from living a life filled with beautiful and amazing experiences to instead just trying to get through the day, the week, the month, and the year. Her question awakened me to the realization that I was allowing my past regrets and grievances to dictate my present. I was unwittingly living a life dominated by memories of judgements suffered, caught in a cycle of blame and self-inflicted punishment, constantly replaying these scenarios in my mind. This mindset had cast a shadow over my household, fostering an environment steeped in victimhood. I had created everything I ever wanted to in the business world, until I didn't, until my dream became my nightmare, and that nightmare became my story, and that story became stuck on repeat in my head. 

But that morning, my perspective shifted. The truth dawned on me: I was trapped in a cycle of reliving past experiences that no longer had any bearing on my present or future. I had adopted the identity of a victim in my own story. I was consciously choosing to live in a state of suffering, rather than embracing the opportunity to shape a new and vibrant existence. This epiphany forced me to confront the need for change, but the path forward remained unclear.

Determined to find my way, I embarked on a journey of growth and self-discovery. I delved into podcasts, devoured books, engaged in courses, attended lectures, and participated in retreats. Over the years, this quest accumulated into a wealth of knowledge and insights, over 10,000 hours' worth, in fact. This time investment allowed me to sift through the noise, distilling the valuable from the detrimental. Slowly but surely, I began to rediscover my true self, unshackle my mind, and revive my capacity to live fully and authentically.

Through this process, I regained the power to rediscover the life I had forgotten. No longer a passive participant, I finally started focusing on how to cause-an-effect in my outside conditions and circumstances instead of waiting for those outside conditions and circumstances to cause-the-effect within me. I began to consciously co-create my life, shedding the reactive approach dictated by external conditions and circumstances. What astounded me most was that the happiness I thought I had lost was actually inside me the whole time. I had simply misplaced the path to it. This rediscovered joy was a gift I had the privilege of sharing with my daughter for the world to see, when my daughter's university invited me to speak to students about the transformative force of shifting one's perspective and the true power of focusing on how to cause-an-effect in one's life instead of waiting for life to cause-the-effect within us.

I'm Jerry, and if my journey resonates with you, I'm here to extend my support. Reach out, and I'll gladly share both the wisdom gained and the lessons learned from my own missteps. It's a blend of the good and the not-so-good, all of which have contributed to the person I've become. In a world where challenges and opportunities abound, I'm here to offer a guiding hand. Here's to your success, and may the path ahead be illuminated by your newfound perspective.